Some women never know the pain and heartache of trying to
get pregnant.
Some women define trying to conceive as spending countless moments together with their loved
one and testing every month.
They’re unaware of those who receive a devastating diagnosis, experience countless doctor appointments, invasive
tests and procedures, expensive medications, and painful injections…all in the
hopes of making a baby.
Some women never know what it is to choose between the next
procedure that could make their dreams of a family come true, or keeping their life
savings. Some women run out of money with still no child in their arms and have
to pretend to the world their family is complete without the children they ache
for.
Some women never imagine what it’s like to grieve the loss
of never being pregnant. To hear a doctor say you have no choice in the matter
because your body is physically unable to do what you always assumed it would.
To never have that positive test, the ultrasounds, the tiny kicks, the
delivery, and the moment when they lay that sweet bundle in your arms and you
lose your heart even more than you thought possible.
Some women complain through their entire pregnancy, unaware
of the infertile women who would be willing to have the worst side effects ever
if it just meant they could be pregnant.
Some women post a stream of announcements, pictures, and
videos on Facebook of their pregnancy and birth, unaware of how those posts
affect the infertile women whose hearts are breaking.
Some women never have a miscarriage. They don’t know what it
is to love something precious and lose it. To grieve someone you never saw
face-to-face. To miss someone you only met in your heart.
These are all things I’ve thought about and experienced in
our last eight months on this constant IVF journey. I can’t tell you how many times my
heart has been broken, the tears I’ve cried, and the pain I’ve endured. Yet
going through all this makes us appreciate our blessings so much more, which is
why we are so proud to announce that I am pregnant and expecting twins in December!
This is a miracle not every infertile women is given and we
are so very thankful! However, we also understand the fragile gift that it is
and know that, especially after our past losses, it is not guaranteed. We hope
and pray that, God-willing, we meet these children just before Christmas.
We ask that you help us help other couples we know who are
trying to conceive by not posting anything on our Facebook pages about this
pregnancy. As someone who has been hurt numerous times by the surprise
announcement or ultrasound picture, I would never want to hurt someone else by
doing the same thing. We plan on posting occasionally on our blog with updates
but I will not be posting things on Facebook. If you want to get our pregnancy
updates, please be sure to follow our blog by email. You can do so by entering
your email on the top, right hand side of our blog and follow the prompts
provided (your email address is secure, protected, and will not be used for any
purpose other than receiving notifications when we’ve loaded a new post).
Although we do not want anything on our Facebook walls, we would love to hear from you privately! Please feel free to private message us, leave comments on the blog, email, text, or call us. Thank you for joining us in celebrating this tremendous blessing and
we ask that you be praying with us for the health and safety of our babies. Thank
you to all of those who have been with us faithfully throughout our journey!
